This weekend Nate, Kelly and the kids came to visit Saturday and Sunday. Jordan and I watched Tanner, Dallin, and Ashlyn while N&K went to the temple on Saturday. When they arrived that afternoon Calin was napping, and when he woke up, the boys went back with me to get him out of bed. Calin was SO happy to see them. I wish I would have got it on camera. He just couldn't stop smiling, giggling, and doing his little excited dance. He has so much fun with all his cousins and it is so much fun watching them all play together! And us parents have a lot of fun together too, so we always love getting together!
Now onto everyday life . . .
So I know I have a happy kid. We are told that all the time, and I love it. And Calin really is happy, and not too difficult. I really feel blessed with him. But it's totally give and take, just because he's almost always smiling and happy, doesn't mean he's good at listening (or sitting still. This kid has more energy than I would think possible! It must be a boy thing). We haven't quite figured out the discipline area yet. He understands what "no" means, but doesn't understand consequences (so even though we tell him not to do something, he does it over and over and over, probably just because he knows he's not supposed to). I know he will understand over time, but we need to start teaching him now. I loved the books I read when he was a newborn. They made life manageable, and helped a ton. But I only read two, I don't like to read tons of different books all with different opinions and advise. I need to read some other parenting books, more specific to raising your kids, not just soothing and sleep help, but I don't want to read a ton, I'm looking for maybe 2 GREAT books :) Any suggestions from one you read?
Even though Calin doesn't take the word "no" seriously, he never says no (unless he's shaking his head), which I'm grateful for :) And he understands things really well. This morning he brought me his blanket, and I asked him "do you want to go lay down?" He smiled at me, nodded his head, and started back toward his room. I put him in his crib, and he went to sleep without a peep - except for the kiss he blew me as I shut his door :)
I love being a mom! I'll take the temper-tantrums, hours spent everyday trying to teach correct principles and chasing him all over the place. Every smile and kiss makes every moment worth it!
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A book I haven't had a chance to read myself, but came highly recommended to me by all my teachers at the U was "Parenting with Love and Logic". I should probably read it before I recommend it to you but hey maybe you can read it and tell me what YOU think?
I listened to what it was basically about and it seemed right up my ally parenting wise. Not focusing on discipline or punishment but more on helping your child understand intrinsically why he or she should or shouldn't do something so that no real punishement is needed they just feel bad or good about it themselves and correct.
I saw the comment above about love and logic. I've read that one and it's great!!!!!!! Another one that I want to read is "Positive Parenting." Hope that helps!!
Spencer's like that too...although he says "no" but very innocently, so it doesn't bother me. He does things he's not supposed to and watches me the entire time to see if I'm watching! Silly boy. I hear ya on the good parenting books, which I'm looking for too. I hear Dr. Sears books are really good. I've got a few of his that I really enjoy, but they're on overall parenting, not specifics. Good Luck!
"Raising an emotionally intelligent child" and "parenting with love and logic" my two parenting faves as of now. I also enjoyed "the power of a positive mom". Good luck! Discipline is so hard. Also, I think the energy is a boy thing... I don't know any different, but Ezra seems to always be more wild than any of his "girl"friends. :)
As long as you teach with patience, love unfeigned, long suffering and hope that he'll understand you will be fine. I'm not sure Calin will learn, but you'll be fine.
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